Mx title choice at Biden White House

On the day of its Inauguration the Biden Administration added the choice of a non-binary title, Mx., to the White House online contact form.

BTW, Mx is best pronounced ‘mix’ and, like other titles, is written in the US with a full stop.

Despite what some say, Mx does not hide anyone’s gender—the user is assumed to be proudly proclaiming their gender identity is in some broad sense non-binary, non-binary transgender, or agender.

January 24, 2020

The revamped White House site now allows for “Mr., Ms., Mrs., Dr., Mx., Other, or None.”

In a major article I wrote: “To avoid customers feeling pressured into making mistakes, these three: Mx, No title, and Other, should always appear together along with the usual titles.” So it’s nice to see the new Biden Administration is using almost exactly what I suggested five years ago.

November 2015

This 2015 article clarifies many issues about Mx and debunks the misleading definitions in some dictionaries. It’s a thorough resource for anyone wanting to use Mx for themself or add it to their forms.

DEFINITIONS

When Mx first started being used consistently around 2002 by a few individuals, including myself, it was used by people who were known as transgender and/or intersex. In those days transgender was an umbrella term which included what is now called non-binary, which has itself become an umbrella term.

To this day Mx is still best suited to non-binary transgender people, broadly defined to include agender, and the few intersex people who are also non-binary transgender.

Obviously, Mx is of no use to binary transgender people and cisgender (ie non-trans and non-intersex) people. Note that some non-binary people do not call themselves transgender.

A useful definition could be:

Mx
noun
An honorary title used by some non-binary, non-binary transgender, or agender people, who do not self-identify as exclusively male or female, to indicate their non-binary gender identity.
(Margaret Jones, January 2021)

Unfortunately, when in May 2015 an online version of the Oxford English Dictionary (OED) became the first dictionary to include Mx, the OED stumbled over their definition, which may have had an unfortunate influence on other dictionaries. They used four real world examples but their definition didn’t match them. They now have nine examples including three of the originals (as at January 2021).

In 2015 they had these real world examples:

‘the bank is planning to introduce the honorific ‘Mx’ as an alternative for anyone who feels that they don’t, for reasons of undetermined gender, fit into being either a Mr, Mrs, Miss or a Ms.’

‘A council is to include the title ‘Mx’ on its official forms to be more accommodating to the trans-community.’

‘Brighton & Hove council adopted the trans-friendly Mx title in 2013, after an inclusivity panel made the recommendation.’

Since then the OED has dropped their fourth real-world example concerning one of the most well-known Mx users, Justin Vivian Bond:

‘To me, Mx Bond embodies the very best kind of girl a boy could ever grow up to become.’ (You can read more about Mx Bond in the main 2015 article.)

These are all non-binary transgender or intersex uses and not cisgender at all. They’re consistent with my experience and usage, and with my observations of how others have used Mx, but they quite clearly contradict the Oxford Dictionary’s own definition.

The OED’s definition on October 3, 2015 at www.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/english/mx#Mx was quite misleading. It’s unchanged today though the link redirects to www.lexico.com/definition/mx:

Mx
noun
A title used before a person’s surname or full name by those who wish to avoid specifying their gender or by those who prefer not to identify themselves as male or female.
(As at January 25, 2021)

This is not even paying lip-service to the notion of non-binary gender identity and only serves to dismiss our reality. They blatantly ignored their own examples, in effect misleading their readers into thinking Mx could be used to hide one’s gender, which is not generally possible (though some may try, possibly influenced by the OED).

Dictionaries should restrict themselves to describing how words are really being used and should not venture into prescribing how they believe words ought to be used. It seems the OED in 2015 could not find examples of Mx usage to demonstrate their view of gender as always binary but, nonetheless, defined Mx their own way, contrary to how Mx was being used. They failed us in this respect and other dictionaries seem to have followed their lead, thus tending to negate the real world experience and even existence of non-binary people.

You can see the original entry as I copied it in October 2015 at Androgyne using the new Mx title since 2002 now in OED. That blog post has a lot more about Mx including pronunciations.

As I wrote in the major article of November 2015, any cisgender person (ie non-transgender or non-intersex) using Mx to refer to themself will be considered by others to be transgender or intersex, which is certainly not what they’re wanting. Using it to avoid specifying one’s gender is not going to work and like posting nude selfies on the internet it may be impossible to completely undo. Mx will inevitably continue to refer to an atypical gender identity, and that will be a gender which is not exclusively male or female.

Some cisgender individuals, and other dictionaries, may have been unduly influenced by the OED’s very misleading definition. Just because some cisgender people have been using or experimenting with Mx to somehow hide their gender does not mean it will work for that purpose, and does not mean such use will persist in the long run.

Of course, using Mx should be optional and not at all compulsory. Many transgender or intersex people will not want to use it. Mx doesn’t suit all people with an unusual gender identity so it is important that no-one assumes a non-binary transgender or intersex person wishes to be known by this title.

I am very heartened to see the new Biden Administration has implemented a very good way of using Mx in their online contact form, right from the very first day. That’s progress!

Main article from November 2015: www.mixmargaret.com/about-mx-with-miss-mrs-mr-ms-and-the-singular-they.html

Blog from October 2015: www.mixmargaret.com/blog/2015/10/07/androgyne-using-the-new-mx-title-since-2002-now-in-oed

YouTube video October 2015: New Mx title now in OED

YouTube video 2020, playing original piano music ‘Androgyne Prophecy.’

MDJ’s Submission on Religious Freedom Bills – Second Exposure Drafts

See many links at the end.

Subject: Submission on Religious Freedom Bills – Second Exposure Drafts

To: Ken.Wyatt.MP@aph.gov.au, FoRConsultation@ag.gov.au
Date: 29 January 2020, 5:53 pm
From: Mx Margaret Dylan Jones (private individual)

Religious Discrimination Bill 2019
Religious Discrimination (Consequential Amendments) Bill 2019
Human Rights Legislation Amendment (Freedom of Religion) Bill 2019

Dear Sirs,

These conservative coalition government bills comprise a blatant attempt to proselytise the Christian religion and unfairly discriminate against a wide range of people.

The bills would be more accurately called ‘Extending Religious Privilege and Enabling Persecution of Non-Believers.’

These aims and motivations are unacceptable to the majority of Australians, who have historically always been in favour of democracy, individual freedoms, and the ‘fair go.’

Christian theocrats, who are strongly represented in the parliament and especially in the LNP, were stung by the overwhelming vote in favour of marriage equality in the 2017 postal survey and by the results of the 2016 Census which found religious belief in Australia is rapidly falling.

Theocracy, that is, government by religious law and ignoring secular views, the will of the people, and science, is wholly unsuited to our modern multicultural society and the increasingly complex and urgent challenges our country faces.

On a related note, the government’s long-running and expensive National School Chaplaincy Programme has, despite explicit regulation, enabled and possibly encouraged chaplains to actively proselytise Christianity in most types of primary schools and high schools. A Christian friend of mine, who applied to work as a chaplain in government schools, in a job interview was asked more about the strength of their faith and their ability to promote their religion than they were asked about their counselling skills. They said: “[I was asked] a high percentage of questions based on how i would communicate my faith as a christian to others and basically how i could convert and recruit people into becoming a christian.” Why should non-religious students, who are in the majority in Australia, have to suffer this Bible bashing and not have access to (possibly secular) counsellors with superior counselling skills?

Promoting ghettos of religious intolerance inside schools and workplaces can only serve to divide Australians from one another. The ‘othering’ of people as either devout, following a different faith, or blasphemous, must be resisted.

The disingenuous regard shown to everyday Australians by a tiny minority of religious people who use canonic verses to power and spread their own fear and hatred should not be encouraged. Freedom of speech should not be based on Biblical authority.

As an atheist I deplore these attempts to take us back to the Iron Age and I celebrate the fact that religion is declining in Australia. I deplore the trashing of science and the promoting and entrenching of anti-science philosophies, such as so-called creation science, which is a clear and present danger to our nation.

Pandering to the fears of conservative theocrats, who cannot abide science, non-believers and the contrary views of secularists and even the members of other faiths, is a poor governmental response to the issues of modern life. Diversity of ideas is crucial to the long-term wellbeing of society.

Respect should be a two-way street, and it usually is. I give respect to believers and consistently receive it back. I have born-again Christian siblings and I board with my born-again former fiancée. I’ve played piano for religious services and I use a church for my students’ performance practices. All these people know I’m atheist and humanist, and an androgyne, and yet there is no hint of a problem because we all show respect at the individual level.

Margaret Jones in a hired church venue

There is scant evidence that people of faith experience discrimination in Australia, but ample evidence that religious organisations actively discriminate against many kinds of non-believers. I have suffered strong institutional discrimination at job interviews where there was an explicit or implicit religious bias against transgender people.

These bills seek to bring in unnecessary changes and drive us back to a nostalgic vision of a fictitious monocultural and monotheistic world which never did exist.

If these bills become law they will stifle free expression and diversity. Please reject these unnecessary and detrimental bills for the sake of Australia’s future.

Yours,

Mx Margaret Dylan Jones
(Mx* is title, pronounced ‘mix;’ Dylan is middle name; Jones is surname)
MusB(UWA), DipEd, LTCL, ATCL, AMusTCL, AMusA
AMC (Associate Composer), WWCC
Hasluck electorate in Western Australia
www.mixmargaret.com

*Mx (mix) is a non-binary transgender title I’ve been consistently using for nearly eighteen years since 2002.

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LINKS for further study, and to make submissions to the government.

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Details of the bills:
https://www.ag.gov.au/Consultations/Pages/religious-freedom-bills-second-exposure-drafts.aspx :

Religious Discrimination Bill 2019
Religious Discrimination (Consequential Amendments) Bill 2019
Human Rights Legislation Amendment (Freedom of Religion) Bill 2019
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Make a submission by 31 January 2020 to the consultation
by sending it to
FoRConsultation@ag.gov.au

Write to your local MP. More info:
https://www.ag.gov.au/Consultations/Pages/religious-freedom-bills-second-exposure-drafts.aspx
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Petitions:
https://www.fairagenda.org/religious_discrimination
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Religious Discrimination Bill and Health Factsheet
by Equality Australia :
https://equalityaustralia.org.au/resources/religious-discrimination-bill-healthcare-fact-sheet/ :

Tell your MP why you oppose the bill:
https://equalityaustralia.org.au/no-to-discrimination-2/

Have you been denied treatment in healthcare based on a religious objection? Have you been discriminated against in healthcare? Write to us and tell us your story here:
equalityaustralia.org.au/contact-us/

Workplace discrimination:
https://equalityaustralia.org.au/resources/religious-discrimination-bill-work-place-fact-sheet/
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Submission to Religious Freedom Bills Second Exposure Drafts – The Stirrer:
https://thestirrer.com.au/submission-to-religious-freedom-bills-second-exposure-drafts/
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National Secular Lobby:
Email federal politicians from the contact list at:
https://www.nationalsecularlobby.org/resources/taking-action/contacting-politicians/
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The Network of Women in Emergency Medicine and Associates (NoWEM), for Health care professionals:

Open Letter Against Religious Discrimination Act

The Network of Women in Emergency Medicine and our associates are making a submission regarding the Religious Discrimination Bills – Second Exposure Drafts. We object to the Bills on the grounds that they will remove protections from discrimination for our patients and our healthcare community. See https://www.nowem.org
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The Stirrer / Doug Pollard
https://thestirrer.com.au/time-for-real-equality/ :
Time For Real Equality
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Women’s Agenda:
Here’s why women should be worried about new religious discrimination laws
https://womensagenda.com.au/latest/heres-why-women-should-be-worried-about-new-religious-discrimination-laws/
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Rodney Croome:
https://www.smh.com.au/national/this-is-not-a-religious-freedom-bill-it-s-a-licence-to-hate-20190829-p52m5h.html
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Alastair Lawrie :
https://alastairlawrie.net/2020/01/27/the-bad-faith-religious-discrimination-bill-must-be-blocked/ AND https://alastairlawrie.net/2019/09/15/the-growing-list-of-problems-with-the-religious-discrimination-bills/

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See a sample of the 6,000 submissions on the First Exposure Drafts (Oct 2019): https://www.ag.gov.au/Consultations/Pages/religious-freedom-bills.aspx

Triple Blast from Past at Fairday 2018

Triple blast from the past! Yesterday at WA Pride Fairday I met up with three people from my adventures of many years ago (sorry, didn’t get pics): Alison Xamon, Louise Pratt, and Sarah Collins.

MDJ at TransFolk stall

Me wearing a T-shirt given to me by my ex-fianceé the day before (one of a couple of presents for house sitting while she and her kids took a holiday).

 

Alison is a current WA state upper house pollie for The Greens who I met yonks ago when she was convenor or something of a special committee with the State School Teachers Union. I was no longer a member of SSTU at that time but, along with another trans person, I was a committee member of B-Legits, an SSTU advocacy group for LGBTI teachers within the education department. I recall a gay man on the committee didn’t want transgender and intersex people or issues included in any way; somehow Alison’s powers of diplomacy won the day.

I knew Louise around that time, too, through all the advocacy work myself and many others were doing to get law reform. Now a Senator in Canberra, in those days she was a WA state upper house member (MLC, like Alison is now), for the Labor Party. What a smart and good-hearted person she is! If she ever writes her biography that will indeed be an interesting read!

Louise went to the same high school as me here in Mundaring (many years after me), and Alison just told me her family were living in Mundaring when she was born. I spent most of my childhood here and since 2011 I’ve been house sitting all around the Shire (and now also boarding). So there must be something about the water or air up here.

Around that time (turn of the century) I was an office bearer of TransWest: The Transgender Association of WA and the International Foundation for Androgynous Studies (IFAS). Both were self funded groups. As part of my committee involvement I met many intersex people in person and a large number online. Through this and literature searches I learnt a lot about intersex variations and the many issues intersex people face. Along with others I introduced the word and concept of intersex to the members of the WA parliament. We were told none of them, not even the openly gay or lesbian members, had ever heard of intersex people.

Despite lots of intense effort by many people to get law reform for LGBTI people the progress was slow. Nevertheless, important groundwork was laid, such as educating politicians, bureaucrats and police (see the link below for the history of that activity).

Three giant mannequins: enby, man, woman.

Three giant mannequins: enby, man, woman.The fantastic duo on stage is Gypsy Lou.

Sarah, a bassoonist, was in the second choir I founded, called Girls, Guys & Others: The GGO Quire. Over a period of eleven months in 2001 the membership included eight intersex or male-born or female-born transgender or transsexual people, among a membership primarily of cisgender people (ie. non-trans persons). The quire’s repertoire ranged through pop music, ninth century organum, sixteenth century motets, negro spirituals, and music composed by Sarah and myself, two of three members with a composition degree.

Sarah now works for Living Proud, LGBTI Community Services of WA, formerly GLCS. Which reminds me I went to a 22-week volunteer telephone counselling course with GLCS in 2002, though I never did take up counselling. I was the first trans or non-cisgender person to complete the course.

Here’s a link to a big page about those days, including stuff about the GGO Quire, TransWest, IFAS and other LGBTI activities in WA. http://mixmargaret.com/watgtsintersex-history-western…

This blog post:

Permalink: http://mixmargaret.com/blog/2018/11/04/triple-blast-fro…-at-fairday-2018/

Shortlink: https://wp.me/p5Rs9D-9L

Supporting the Institution of Marriage. A Trans Perspective

Our unusual take on marriage equality for same-sex, transgender and intersex couples in Australia. Jenny and I can and will marry, but many others are simply not allowed to under the current law. See below for lots of links.

Unless the process gets struck down in the High Court on 5th & 6th September 2017, the Australian Bureau of Statistics (ABS) will conduct the Australian Marriage Law Postal Survey, using the names & addresses of voters on the electrol roll aged 18 years or older.

Below is the transcript of our Facebook video, made by Jenny and myself.

Jenny & Margaret
From Jenny & Margaret’s YouTube video, with background piano music by Margaret: “Rainbows Over Hovea.”

JEN: Hello. I’m Ms Jenny Nairn.

MDJ: And I’m Mix Margaret Jones.

JEN: My fiancée Margaret is an androgyne. I am a cisgender woman. Margaret and I make a great couple; all my family love her.

MDJ: It is wrong to claim allowing marriage equality for same-sex couples, and trans and intersex people, will erode or somehow damage the institution of marriage. Nothing could be further from the truth.

JEN: This debate is about marriage equality. It’s about two people who want to seal their relationship in marriage, regardless of their gender.

MDJ: In reality the campaign against marriage equality is an attempt to suppress us, to put us back in the bottle and make us invisible again.

JEN: Marriage rates for heterosexual and cisgender people, that is, non-transgender people, have been historically low for decades with fewer couples getting married and divorce rates high. This has had serious effects on families and extended families. I know this for myself as I have been divorced for fourteen years with two young children, and it was difficult! But I’m looking forward to getting married again.

MDJ: Allowing same-sex, transgender and intersex couples to use the civil contract known as marriage will enhance the concept of the family. LGBTI families form in many ways and they include blended families with children from previous relationships. These children should not be denied a happy and secure family life.

[Update:Children of same-sex parents enjoy better levels of health and wellbeing than their peers from traditional family units, new Australian research suggests. In what they described as the largest study of its type in the world, University of Melbourne researchers surveyed 315 same-sex parents and 500 children about their physical health and social wellbeing.” See http://www.abc.net.au/news/2014-07-05/children-raised-by-same-sex-couples-healthier-study-finds/5574168 ]

Accepting the reality of our inherent or intrinsic equality as LGBTI people, because despite unequal treatment we are and always have been equal, and allowing us to marry, will surely boost the concept and practice of marriage.

JEN: Marriage, as a social contract pre-dates all modern religions by thousands of years and there is no reason why churches should have any veto over it. They do not have a monopoly on love.

Modern marriage is about love, and nurturing relationships, and I think we can all agree that these are good things. But, until very recent times marriage was not usually about love and caring at all. It was all about protecting women and children as objects owned by men—nothing to do with protecting women and children for their own benefit and nothing to do with loving couples. We want to marry for the modern reasons of love and nurturing.

MDJ: The current marriage law has caused great hardship to many transgender and intersex Australians. Often trans people are required to get divorced in order to change their legally documented sex or gender. Many of us have been forced to divorce our loved ones so we can change our official identification. This is much worse and more frustrating than you might imagine as these identification changes are crucial in many ways to our well-being, and the well-being of our families.

Some intersex Australians have birth certificates which identify their sex as ‘indeterminate,’ rather than as male or female. They may have no disability whatsoever, yet they may not [are not allowed to] marry simply because marriage is still only between a man and a woman.

It’s inappropriate to name a non-binary or enby [N.B.] person like myself as a ‘husband’ or a ‘wife,’ yet that is what the current law requires.

JEN: Some of us will marry in a religious ceremony because some of us are Christian (such as myself), orJewish, Muslim, Hindu or Buddhist and so on. We might even use a church or some other place of worship.

Changing the law to enable marriage equality will help to save the modern social institution of two people in love coming together in a civil legal contract to properly secure the future of themselves and their families.

TOGETHER: Please vote YES
MDJ: for marriage equality in Australia for same-sex, transgender and intersex couples if you want to preserve and strengthen the institution of marriage.

TOGETHER: Vote YES
JEN: if you want to support children growing up in loving families with committed parents.

TOGETHER: Vote YES
MDJ: if you want all couples and their children to have the same rights to hospital visits, shared taxation, inheritance and many other entitlements.

JEN: When people are treated equally, everyone benefits. Let’s get equality for ALL couples in Australia who want to formally commit to each other.

Thank you.

MDJ: Please check you are registered for the postal vote by 24th of August 2017, and get your ballot posted back well before the 7th of November, that’s the deadline. Please see the links for more information on how to do that and for explanations of the terms we’ve used such as Mx (Mix), androgyne, cisgender, transgender, intersex, enby, and non-binary.

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Video written & spoken by Ms Jenny Nairn (cisgender woman) & Mx Margaret D. Jones (non-binary transgender enby/androgyne).

Music: Rainbows Over Hovea © 2016, composed & performed by Margaret D. Jones, MusB(UWA), DipEd, LTCL, ATCL, AMusTCL, AMusA.

Please ensure you are registered for the Australian POSTAL plebiscite by 24 August 2017. To check your enrolment with the AEC, see https://check.aec.gov.au/

Ballot papers will start arriving in the mail from September 12. The postal vote closes 7 November. Please make sure you post it back promptly. Don’t let it gather dust!

To clarify: Although I’m an androgyne and the name on my birth certificate is “Margaret Dylan Jones,” I am legally male. This means Jenny and I can get married whenever we want, which is sadly not the case for so many other LGBTI people.

For links and info about the plebiscite/survey on marriage equality in Australia, and a brief glossary for the terms Mx (Mix), androgyne, cisgender, transgender, intersex, non-binary and enby, see http://mixmargaret.com/links/

See my major article about Mx or Mix, a non-binary transgender honorific title: About Mx, with Miss, Mrs, Mr, Ms, and the singular they

Marriage equality acceptance rings arrived

We finally received our “Until we all belong” marriage equality acceptance rings from Airbnb.

Until we all belong marriage equality acceptance ring

Until we all belong marriage equality acceptance rings

“This incomplete ring symbolises the gap
in marriage equality that we need to close.

“Until the day comes when two people who love each other can celebrate that love through commitment, will you wear this ring and show your acceptance of marriage equality?”

Airbnb on eBay have been overwhelmed with orders so there was a big delay (two months for us), and somehow we ended up with sizes too small (that’s why they’re on our little fingers). But they’ll do.

Absolutely anyone can wear these rings in support of the LGBTIQ community’s case for marriage equality in Australia. They’re free apart from $3.50 postage each.

Jenny and I will get married whether the law changes or not. Wearing the acceptance rings is our way of showing support for all the many other lesbian, gay, bi, trans, intersex and queer (LGBTIQ) folk who don’t have our advantage.

https://untilweallbelong.com/the-acceptance-ring

Marriage equality open letter

Jenny & Mix Margaret

My letter to my local Federal Member of Parliament, Mr Ken Wyatt AM, MP, a member of the Liberal Party.

For readers outside of Australia: despite its name the ‘Big L’ Liberal Party is actually the right wing or conservative party, currently ruling Australia under Prime Minister Turnbull.

The letter was sent on 10 July 2017 via this website:
http://www.equalitycampaign.org.au/messagemp?
which said “Write your message … and it will be sent to your local MP.” You can do the same!

Dear Ken Wyatt MP

I grew up in Parkerville/Hovea in the 60s and 70s and now live in Sawyers Valley. I’m a well-known and highly respected local classical musician and teacher.

Please ensure any new marriage law covers any two consenting adults, not just opposite sex couples and same sex couples. This way non-binary and intersex people will be able to marry.

At the moment some of us can’t marry, while others can but they will be misgendered. When I marry my fiancé I want to do it right, I don’t want to have completely wrong words in it.

Ken, as a straight non-transgender man, can you imagine getting married as a ‘wife?’ Or getting married to a ‘husband?’ How wrong is that? This is the sort of misgendering which happens under the current law.

Marriage predates Christianity by a long way. For non-believers it is a contract and a powerful emotional commitment, but not a religious rite. Churches should not have power of veto over the Marriage Act; it doesn’t belong to them.

Of course, many same-sex couples and couples where one or both partners are non-binary or intersex are indeed religious. My fiancé is a Christian, while I am an atheist. There is no valid reason why we should be denied equality in the social contract of marriage.

We already know the vast majority of Australians are in favour of marriage equality and would vote in favour of it if a plebiscite were held. Despite this, some MPs have already said a ‘Yes’ vote in a plebiscite won’t make them vote for it in parliament, thus making a mockery of the case for a plebiscite.

Please do not appease the tiny vocal minority who want to delay justice by using a non-binding and expensive plebiscite. They are pushing a religious agenda and playing politics with people’s lives. A plebiscite would cause taxpayer-funded hate and misinformation to invade the Australian media, resulting in great harm to a large number of Australian families.

Respectfully

Mx Margaret D. Jones, androgyne (enby)
Sawyers Valley, Western Australia
Email via www.mixmargaret.com
MusB(UWA), DipEd, LTCL, ATCL, AMusTCL, AMusA.
MIMT, AMC, WWCC

Trans talk at Wheatbelt Mental Health

It was a sign of the times that I was invited to give a talk about transgender issues to a group affiliated with WA Country Health Service.

For 80 minutes yesterday I presented an interactive talk to the Consumer Advocacy Group (CAG) within Wheatbelt Mental Health, in Northam.

Mx Margaret Jones & audience

Mx Margaret and the Consumer Advocacy Group at Bridgeley Community Centre, Northam

It is certainly appropriate for mental health workers, consumers and affiliated groups to have educational talks about transgender issues even though being transgender is not in itself a diagnosis of any mental health condition. It’s still important because trans people do suffer a greatly increased risk of mental illness including suicide attempts, depression, anxiety and other conditions mostly likely caused by social isolation, family rejection, employment & housing discrimination, bullying, frequent innuendo about not being genuine, and of course, gender dysphoria.

We covered many topics including changes in terminology over recent decades especially in relation to the terms transgender, transsexual (rarely used nowadays), intersex, and non-binary. We looked a little at pronouns including the singular they, and of course I told them all about Mx (or Mix), a non-binary transgender title.

Several people contributed very interesting and insightful questions, comments and anecdotes. Two were staff psychologists with WMH and I was really impressed at their already well-developed and fine-tuned understanding of many of the issues. I was picked-up for a slip of the tongue when I said ‘intersex condition’ instead of ‘intersex variation’ because most intersex people don’t have any sort of physical or mental illness directly related to being intersex and need no treatment (unless they have suffered from some unnecessary medical procedure). What a pleasant surprise that was.

Whenever I talk about trans issues I always bring up intersex stories because we can all learn so much from the intersex experience. For one thing this really puts the lie to the notion there are only men and women walking the earth, and their often shocking interaction with the medical establishment is instructive. Most in this group had not previously heard the word ‘intersex.’

I had handouts for them briefly covering many topics and I believe six pages of that will be scanned and put in their minutes. Yay!

It was so good to interact like this with these good folk and educate them further. We all agreed that the general public has been getting more and more on the same page with the transgender community despite the misinformed rantings of a vocal few.

Mx Margaret D. Jones

Mx Margaret D. Jones

Non-binary in Census 2016

The 2016 Australian Census was an obvious and very public debacle in several respects, but there was a positive side: it allowed non-binary and intersex people to be counted in a distinct way from male and female people.

2016 Australian census Q. 2

Q. 2: Non-binary transgender (Androgyne)

For the first time I was able to click a radio button for ‘Other’ in question two, instead of ‘Male’ or ‘Female.’ In the ‘please specify’ box I wrote: “Non-binary transgender (Androgyne).”

2016 Australian cenus feedback

Census feedback: Glad I didn’t have to lie.

This ‘Other’ option was only available in the online version if you requested a special login code for non-binary people.

2016 Australian census Q. 18

Q. 18: No religion

Another innovation was to put ‘No religion’ at the top of the options for religion in question 18. Apparently, the powers that be thought this would elicit a more accurate figure, and they may be right.

The improvement in the recording of non-binary status in the census is no doubt due to the advocacy and legal achievements of several gender pioneers in Australia over a long period of time, notably Alex MacFarlane, Norrie, and Tony Briffa. More recently Jamie Shupe has been succeeding in legal action in the USA.

Alex MacFarlane
In 2001 Alex, born many decades earlier in Victoria (Australia), was given a new birth certificate showing “Sex: Indeterminate also known as Intersex.

From en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alex_MacFarlane :

MacFarlane is believed to be the first person in Australia to obtain a birth certificate recording sex as indeterminate, and the first Australian passport with an ‘X’ sex marker in 2003.

Norrie
Also from en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alex_MacFarlane :

[Norrie] became the first transsexual person in Australia to pursue a legal status of neither a man nor a woman, in 2010. That status was subjected to an appeal by the State of New South Wales. In April 2014 the Australian High Court ruled “that New South Wales laws do permit the registration of a category of sex other than male or female.” See also en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Norrie_May-Welby

Tony Briffa
Also from en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alex_MacFarlane :

Tony Briffa JP previously acknowledged as the world’s first openly intersex public official and mayor, states on Briffa’s website that “my birth certificate is silent as to my sex.” See also www.briffa.org

Jamie Shupe (USA)
www.themarysue.com/oregon-court-nonbinary/ (June 2016):

…an Oregon circuit court rules that resident Jamie Shupe could legally change their gender to nonbinary—the first U.S. court to do so.” See also transgender.wiki/jamie-shupe/

Like me Shupe uses Mx as a title, instead of Miss or Mr etc. Thus ‘Mx Jamie Shupe,’ and ‘Mx Shupe.’ I’ve been using Mx (pronounced ‘mix’), a non-binary transgender title, since 2002. See mixmargaret.com/about-mx-with-miss-mrs-mr-ms-and-the-singular-they.html

2016 Australian census Q. 36

Q. 36: Occupation: music teacher

If anyone in Australia has not yet done the census be aware it is compulsory and you can be fined. The deadline is 23 September, 2016. The Australian Bureau of Statistics (ABS) sent me this:

If you are using the online form and the responses of male and female do not apply to you, please take the following steps:
1. Call the Census Inquiry Service on 1300 214 531.
2. Ask for a Census Login for the special online form. You can receive your Login by SMS or email.
3. Use your new Census Login to complete your Census form at census.abs.gov.au

You could also ask the ABS if there is a special hardcopy form.

Major article on Mx now online

I’ve just completed a second, and very much larger, article all about the honorific title Mx or Mix:

About Mx, with Miss, Mrs, Mr, Ms,
and the singular they

Mx is a non-binary transgender title I’ve been using for myself since 2002.

The new article is much too long to fit in a single blog post so it’s online as an ordinary web page at

http://www.mixmargaret.com/about-mx-with-miss-mrs-mr-ms-and-the-singular-they.html

with a separate page holding five appendices (all well worth a read) at

http://www.mixmargaret.com/about-mx-five-appendices-to-mix-article.html

 

Androgyne using the new Mx title since 2002, now in OED

Updated to 4 July 2016

The new honorific title ‘Mx’ was added to the Oxford English Dictionary recently. Some transgender and intersex people are now using Mx instead of Miss, Mrs, Ms or Mr. But there are some problems with it, not the least of which concerns the OED’s definition (more briefly discussed in my YouTube video New Mx title now in OED. See also my major article on this subject at About Mx, with Miss, Mrs, Mr, Ms, and the singular they).

(Note that in this blog post, the way I use ‘transgender’ refers to ‘non-binary transgender,’ and does not include ‘transsexual,’ simply because the latter, ie binary transgender people, will probably have a different perspective or attitude to Mx.)

To my mind Mx is an abbreviation of Mix or Mixture just as Miss, Mrs, and Mr are or were originally abbreviations of Mistress, Mistress (you read that correctly), and Master, respectively.

Many years ago I was a very early adopter of Mx (or Mix) after hearing that an intersex person in Victoria, Australia, was using it. Unfortunately I don’t recall their name.

Mx Margaret D. Jones ca. 2002

Mx Margaret D. Jones ca. 2002

As an androgyne, choosing to use the title Mx in 2002 was an excellent decision. For well over a decade most of my bills have come addressed to Mx Margaret Dylan Jones, or something similar. That’s credit cards, tax bills, bank statements, utilities etc. Mx or Mix is used in some sheet music publications of my classical piano music. At live performances where I play piano solo or accompany choirs or student soloists I’m introduced as “Mix Margaret…”

The sky has not fallen in and not once have I encountered a problem with it, apart from when computer operators find their software is just a bit too binary, but that is slowly changing.

In 2004 a seven-minute profile of myself was broadcast nationally on ABC television by the George Negus Tonight (GNT) programme. They consistently called me ‘Mix.’ (See the link at the end.)

December 2002 Mx Margaret Jones, doctor's letter

7th December 2002. Formal letter from my endocrinologist to my GP, about ‘MX MARGARET JONES.’ Also has ‘Mx Margaret Jones’ after Cc, below the signature.

However, I fear the inclusion in May 2015 of Mx in the Oxford Dictionary online version may now, for the first time, present some headwinds for me. It’s clear they have failed to adequately define the meaning or use of Mx, and they’ve come up with a poor pronunciation for it.

On October 3, 2015 at www.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/english/mx#Mx they had this definition:

Mx
noun

A title used before a person’s surname or full name by those who wish to avoid specifying their gender or by those who prefer not to identify themselves as male or female. (This is unchanged at July 4, 2016)

Their definition suggests Mx is used to avoid stating one’s gender. The phrase ‘… those who prefer not to identify themselves as male or female’ may at first seem liberal and up-to-date with contemporary thinking but it’s not about modern notions of gender identity at all. It’s tantamount to denying the existence of any other gender besides male or female, which flies the face of the views of many researchers and academics.

Based on the way people are using it Mx definitely refers to various types of transgender or intersex identities, however difficult to define or however loosely defined those may be. As far as I can tell the only people using Mx are certain intersex and transgender people who, like myself, far from trying to conceal their gender are trying to make it clearer.

Any cisgender (i.e. non-transgender or non-intersex) person using Mx to refer to themself will be considered by others to be transgender or intersex, which is certainly not what they’re wanting. Using it to avoid specifying one’s gender is not going to work and like posting nude selfies on the internet it may be impossible to completely undo. Mx will inevitably continue to refer to an atypical gender identity, and that will be a gender which is not exclusively male or not exclusively female.

BUT  WHAT  IF  YOU  ARE  GENDERLESS?

I’ve often heard individuals say they do not have a gender. Sometimes I feel like this myself and I suspect many people occasionally do not feel like they have a gender. For example, not every man using Mr always thinks of himself as typically male. So I wonder if, perhaps paradoxically and showing its versatility, Mx may also serve to denote a person who is consistently genderless, as many otherwise transgender people consider themselves to be.

The online dictionary provides four examples which one assumes are meant to clarify their definition and illustrate how Mx is being used:

‘the bank is planning to introduce the honorific ‘Mx’ as an alternative for anyone who feels that they don’t, for reasons of undetermined gender, fit into being either a Mr, Mrs, Miss or a Ms’

‘A council is to include the title ‘Mx’ on its official forms to be more accommodating to the trans-community.’

‘To me, Mx Bond embodies the very best kind of girl a boy could ever grow up to become.’

‘Brighton & Hove council adopted the trans-friendly Mx title in 2013, after an inclusivity panel made the recommendation.’

However, these are all transgender or intersex uses and not cisgender at all. So their examples are consistent with my experience and usage, and with my observations of how others have used Mx, but they quite clearly contradict the Oxford Dictionary’s own definition!

BUT  HOW  DO  YOU  SAY  IT?

The Oxford Dictionary provided two pronunciations (you can listen to them spoken at their site):

Mx
Pronunciation: /məks/  /mɪks/

I suggest in practice /məks/ would soon become ‘mucks’ or ‘mux.’

The same dictionary’s definition of the word ‘mix’ (not the new honorific title) is identical with their second offering for Mx: /mɪks/. That is, ‘mix.’

The pronunciation is definitely better as ‘mix,’ not ‘mux,’ for several reasons. First, the real meaning of Mx often, though not always, pertains to a mixture of gender characteristics, which should be reason enough. Second, and this is more of an aesthetic preference, ‘mix’ is a much nicer sound. Also, ‘Mux’ sounds the same as ‘mucks,’ and who knows what that is supposed to mean?

The pronunciation ‘Muck’s’ could be misinterpreted as denoting possession as in ‘Muck’s Ackroyd’ wherein people may wonder what an ackroyd is and why Muck has one. With ‘Muck’s Jane’ they may wonder if Jane is a friend or perhaps a daughter of Muck. Granted, ‘Mix’ could be heard as ‘Mick’s,’ but at least mix is already a word and retains its original meaning of ‘mixture.’ Thus, it should not be so confusing.

The use of Mx or Mix as an honorific title is an elegant solution where many awkward alternatives have been suggested over several decades. Like the other titles Mrs, Miss, Ms or Mr, it starts with an easy ‘m,’ is only two or three letters, and I suggest is even easier and nicer to say than Ms.

THE  ADVANTAGES  of  Mx  and  Mix

  • Allows androgynes and other transgender and intersex people to be open about their gender
  • Allows us to fill-in forms truthfully, without lying
  • Is an elegant solution.

Mix as a pronunciation, and as the alternative or full spelling, has these important advantages over Mux:

  • Mix doesn’t fall foul of automatic spell-checkers
  • Retains the meaning or implication of mixture
  • Is easy to say
  • Everyone already knows how to pronounce it
  • Is less likely to be misheard as Ms
  • Is already proven to work perfectly in the real world since at least 2002.

NOT  COMPULSORY

Of course, using Mx should be optional and not at all compulsory. Many transgender or intersex people will not want to use it. Mx or Mix doesn’t suit all people with an unusual gender identity so it is important that no-one assumes a non-binary transgender or intersex person wishes to be known by this title. Some people don’t want any gender titles or labels of any kind. And I guess most transsexuals would only want to use the traditional male or female titles. If you don’t know you can ask.

For a long time I have called myself an androgyne, meaning a type of non-binary transgender person (not a transsexual). I’m happy to be addressed or referred to as she and her, and also by they and their. Other androgynes may feel differently about how they should be known.

Intersex people are often not aware they have an intersex variation or trait. Even when they are aware they probably consider themselves to be exclusively male or exclusively female in terms of identity, and would not want to call themselves in any way transgender. But a small number have a very different idea of their gender and some like to use Mx or Mix.

WHAT  IS  THE  POINT?

People such as myself really need a title like Mx for use in filling out official forms and many other situations. Very often you can’t open an online account without specifying a title or at least a gender. This forces us to LIE—if we put either male or female we are LYING. This can cause some real-world problems as well as emotional difficulties. If you are a cisgender person reading this, can you imagine going through your daily life constantly being referred to by, and having to provide, the wrong gender title? Then multiply that feeling by a hundred and you might know what it is like for us. It can be a tremendous insult for transgender and intersex people and at the very least it’s an injustice. Constantly hearing the wrong personal pronouns and titles does violence to one’s soul and can have mental health implications.

Mx may not satisfy all transgender theorists. Any title hides a myriad of differences and Mx is no different. How many different types of men are there? Billions! How many different types of androgynes or gender-queer etc. people are there who might use Mx? That’s also an infinite variety.

Mx and Mix do not denote exactly what type of gender identity a person has other than it is ‘other.’ This means not exclusively male or not exclusively female, whatever those terms may mean. Mx and Mix have proven to be of great practical value over at least the last thirteen years or so. Importantly, the general public seems to find them easy to understand and straightforward to use.

I’ve written to the Oxford English Dictionary in a personal capacity. I hope they will amend their entry on Mx soon. (No change as at 4 July 2016.)

Comments welcome

See the links at the start for the newer and much-expanded main article on Mx.

Listen to my 1977 Androgyne Prophecy music for free
soundcloud.com/mix-margaret-dylan-jones/sets
Watch me play it on a grand piano on YouTube
youtube.com/channel/UCz318nZdr520zMNK6GNfnjQ

Watch my YouTube video about Mx being added to the dictionary
New Mx title now in OED
Comment on this blog: mixmargaret.com/blog
Main site: mixmargaret.com
facebook.com/MixMargaretDylanJones
Read the transcript of my 2004 appearance on the George Negus Tonight ABC television programme: mixmargaret.com/Mx-Jones-GNT-transcription-ABC-television-2004-07-20.html (This transcript used to be on the ABC’s site, as below, but has since been archived)
www.abc.net.au/gnt/people/Transcripts/s1158647.htm
Read about me and Mx in my local newspaper September 2015
echonewspaper.com.au/margarets-mx-gender-in-the-dictionary
More about me in the media
www.mixmargaret.com/margaret-in-media.html
2002 IFAS definitions of androgyne and intersex, and other links
mixmargaret.com/androgyne-definition.html

More scans of documents with ‘Mx Margaret Jones’

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Jan 2003 Music contract for Mx Jones

January 2003. Royalty ‘contract’ for piano composition by Mx Margaret Jones in exam syllabus book by Allans/AMEB (Allans was then the biggest Australian sheet music publisher, and later became AMPD).

Feb 2003 phone bill, MX MD JONES

February 2003. Telephone bill for MX MD JONES